If the pressure of planning a wedding isn’t already enough, just add a pandemic and watch the madness unfold. For almost a year now, New Jersey couples have been scrambling, rearranging, slashing guest lists and canceling weddings altogether as they navigate trying to host a giant party during COVID-19. Should we move the dance floor outside? Are we going to have to reschedule this thing twice? Should we just say enough and elope? Each decision brings anxiety, uncertainty and, naturally, the opinions of all those invited guests. Here, four N.J. couples talk about how they finally landed on a d…